Nine Ways Elderly People Can Overcome Loneliness

Fagboungbe said, “It’s as if our culture does not embrace it because it has very serious social stigma and people would make jest of you, but it helps because there are other old people there they tend to interact with. ” Notably, there is scarcity of that in this clime, but elderly people who are fortunate to live close to one or if they travel to countries where they have and they are admitted, experts say it is something to consider.Stay active: It is not uncommon to see elderly people who still go to the mall, farm, take a walk in the neighbourhood, even if slowly, or do certain things for themselves, and findings have shown that engaging in such activities helps, even if children and neighbours are wont to advise them to refrain from doing certain things, thinking it could wear them out.It is worthy of note that children sometimes find it hard to live with some elderly people because they see their behaviour as awkward, but with constant learning, they and partners who tend to have difficulty living with old people, could make life better for such elderly people.Try something new: It might sound unattractive or like an unnecessary task at old age, but findings have shown that trying something new, like learning an instrument or learning a vocation like hair plaiting, would help to engage their minds and keep them busy. “The best thing is for them not to feel old from within, if they have the feeling that they are old, the effect would be more devastating, hence, they need to feel young,” Fagboungbe added. “In fact, when it comes to psychological aging, nobody can help them, except themselves.Stay around family members: This is not alien to people in this part of the world, as their children tend to invite them to live with them.Meanwhile, Attoh stressed that helping elderly people to deal with loneliness is a three-pronged approach; the individual, family members and the society.Get people to live with you: No doubt, some people are wary of outsiders, especially anyone outside their immediate family, but in the situation under discussion, elderly people are advised to have good people around them.Elderly people have been advised to go out and mix with people, especially because loneliness or feeling abandoned has been found to escalate depression.

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Tomorrow My Baby Gets Married

I still talk to Rebecca constantly (she works with me so we’re always FaceTiming), and I know I’m not going to lose Katie.I’m not talking about someone with a busy job, like my husband, who got called in to the hospital a lot when the kids were young.My house is bustling with so many overnight guests, I don’t know if I have enough hairspray, and I’m still praying I fit into my dress.I’m not talking about a life in the military, where you may be deployed for several months but you’re home the other time. You can deal with that.I’m talking about someone with a ministry or a job which would cause them to not be there to form a relationship with their kids.But we’re happy, everything seems to be in place, and even though I didn’t get much sleep last night I think I’m going to be okay through it all.I’m about to make 4 dozen banana chocolate chip muffins, pick up dry cleaning, and make sure I have Kleenex packed.I’m just praying we have a few minutes alone in this very busy household sometime today before the big day tomorrow!I see that there are a ton of comments–to be honest, I haven’t read through them all because I’m just too busy!

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Can I Ask An Honest Question About Billy Graham And His Kids?

Was God happy every time Billy Graham got on a plane to preach to thousands, when his kids were left behind and honestly were neglected by their dad?The Bells provided her with companionship to ease the loneliness she felt during her husband’s long absences and were there to share important moments — when their first child, Virginia (always called “Gigi”), was born in 1945, Billy was away on a preaching trip.So I am left with this strange conundrum when it comes to Billy Graham and his kids:We know that God used Billy Graham in great ways all over the world.Even writing that seems strange, though, too, because we know that Billy Graham’s kids have had amazing ministries (especially his daughter Anne).Now, even if he had been a present father that doesn’t mean his kids would have necessarily made better decisions earlier, but it does seem strange to me that God would ask us to neglect our kids to do a bigger work.All five of his children are in some sort of ministry, and many grandchildren, too (though one grandchild, Tullian Tchividjian, is a pastor who groomed multiple vulnerable women for sex, and is thus guilty of clergy abuse, and left his wife to marry one of them).I read an article in the Washington Post yesterday called “Divorce, Drugs, Drinking: Billy Graham’s Children and their Absent Father.Instead of calling to cancel a routine preaching engagement in Ohio and staying at the bedside of his new bride, Billy checked her into a hospital and kept the appointment, sending her a telegram and a box of candy for consolation.

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Why I Blog For All The Real Life Marriage Misfits Who Aren’t Pigeonholed

You showed me last week that I don’t need to be scared–that people are so, so hungry for REAL dialogue on this stuff, because we don’t see it in the churches very often and we don’t see it in bookstores, either.  Where we do see it is on the internet, where real people can hang out without the gatekeepers in the wider Christian sphere.Unfortunately, once you start trying to build an audience in the Christian world, it’s tempting to self-censor because you don’t want to tick off people that you need to sell your books.I think it’s kind of like what happened last year when Gary Thomas, who is a pastor with the Southern Baptist Church (full disclosure, he’s also a friend) published his awesome article Enough is Enough, talking about how the Christian church needs to come to terms with the fact that in preaching the evils of divorce, it has also made it so horribly difficult to help women in truly abusive marriages.I spent a week writing almost 15,000 words on how the conservative Christian church has shamed women by talking about “every man’s battle” with lust as being primarily women’s fault, and, to my surprise, 95% of my female readers said a collective, “Well, DUH! ” Even the vast majority of the men commenting agreed with me.I actually sent this reflection out to my weekly newsletter subscribers back then (if you’re not on my email list, you miss a lot of behind the scenes stuff, coupons, extra freebies, monthly videos, and more! ) I thought it was important, and summed up well some of the things I’ve been thinking on the blog this year, so I thought I’d share it with you more widely!One reason this blog is actually the biggest Christian marriage blog on the web (even though I’m not the biggest marriage author) is because I talk about real stuff that people are actually thinking about.But lately I’ve been finding that some things just need to be said, even if it means criticizing some pretty big things in the evangelical world–like my post Top 10 Signs You’re Respecting Your Husband Too Much (again, that post went huge and was largely appreciated); and my Every Man’s Battle post last week.

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The Best Ideas For Quick Things To Improve A Marriage

And one of the big themes that we were trying to hammer home is that often little changes in a marriage, little shifts in how you do things, end up making the biggest difference. (Want us to come speak at your church?The Quickest Ways to Improve a Marriage Sometimes small things can make the biggest changes in improving a marriage!This week I’m gearing up for my daughter Katie’s wedding on Saturday, and so I’m posting some round-ups to some of my favourite posts addressing marriage.It is so easy to drift apart in marriage and start feeling like you’re not connecting anymore, or wondering if you each even want to be together anymore.What difference would it make in your marriage if you could start praying everyday–and have it not feel awkward?

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The Best Advice For Choosing A Good Husband

A ton of posts on how to choose a good husband. See one that resonates?Please share on social media so that young people who are still in the dating stage can get some good advice!I’ve got four things that you need in any potential husband.But how do you tell if the guy you’re dating has good character?And he gives the best one-liner about how to find a good husband that I’ve ever heard!That you’re choosing a good husband?First off, let’s start with the things that you need in a husband!It’s great to have faith that God will give you a good husband.How do you choose a good husband?Here’s the run-down on how to discern if he’s got good character.If you have a friend who is about to walk down the aisle, and you’re afraid that she may be making a mistake, here are 10 questions that can help her see if her relationship is built on something solid.How do you know that the guy you’re marrying is a good guy?

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Who Is More Romantic — Man Or Woman?

Romance is often said to be an aspect of love in a relationship; in fact, some people believe that the more romantic a person is, the more loving they will be and the more lively the relationship will be.Saturday PUNCH asked some Nigerians who they think is usually more romantic in a relationship — men or women?What I’m trying to say is that in some cases, men are more romantic and in others, women are more romantic.Men are more romantic because they are always trying to impress ladies, so they go the extra mile to show their romantic side, for instance, by organising birthday parties at the beach for their spouses or girlfriends.The woman now shoulders the responsibility of being romantic for the greater part of the union.Women are more romantic towards their spouses.Looking at history and even now, women can be said to be more romantic than men.Women can be romantic anywhere and at anytime.So, naturally, women are more romantic.So, being romantic is a personality thing, not about the gender of the person involved.Being romantic entails being able to understand the body and emotional make-up of one’s partner.It might not be easily noticeable, but when you observe closely the behaviour of both parties in a relationship, you would notice that men are actually more romantic.But believe me, once he proposes and the woman accepts, he has reached the height of his romantic career.A woman could decorate and light up the room with scented candles just to create a romantic atmosphere.

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Saying ‘yes’ Can Also Be Complex In Marriage

The modern couple’s marriage is plagued with many challenges today and the goal of many individuals in marriage is usually to seek self-fulfillment first and foremost and shared fulfillments after; so saying ‘Yes’ can often mean silence in extreme situations.Saying ‘Yes’ does not have to be complex;  nonetheless understanding your rights and the importance of making choices as well as respecting each other’s values through those choices will go a long way to fulfilling a happy and wonderful marriage lives together.Silence has become one of the biggest marriage destroyers today and saying ‘Yes’ to a spouse can also mean keeping silent for the supposed sake of peace when you have absolutely nothing to say again.Saying ‘Yes’ to your spouse always can be a sign of inferiority complex which can develop from emotional disruption of your mind and a deep rooted doubt in yourself and your ability.In marriage, inferiority sets in when you feel that you cannot measure up to your spouse because of your low self esteem or you believe he’s better than you because of his social status.

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19 Health Tips To Manage Libido Swing

But now that you are already diagnosed with early stage of prostate cancer and also under treatment, you will definitely need to drastically, extremely and radically slow down on the frequencies of sex because, above all other things, you need your body to help get you healed on time and heal well.Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.Eight, sometimes some people with low sex drive are more interested in making love under certain conditions at certain times of the day, on weekends, after a bath, or a good talk, a vacation, or when the kids are asleep, or when they are about to start their menstrual flow, or when they eat certain food items, or when they are taking some medication or drinks.Hello Ibisanmi, it’s fairly unusual for a woman to find herself consumed by sexual thoughts and desires, but it‘s not pathologically or even unnecessarily “ungodly. ” Sexual drive and pleasure are part of God‘s creative design.Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20 something-year-old men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life,  Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International.But a big problem started few months ago when I went for my general health checkup and I requested to have my P S A (prostate specific antigen) done as you have always advocated.  Unfortunately, the test indicated that I am in the early stage of prostate cancer which is treatable.When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s and 50s.

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Why You Should Know Your Wife’s Menstrual Cycle

Helps to understand her body language: According to Olamoyegun, the sexual urge of some women reach the peak during their period, thus a man who does not know the wife’s cycle tends to be unaware of the wife’s sexual needs, especially when she’s not the type that is vocal when she wants sex.It helps to manage sexual expectation: Another benefit of a man knowing his wife’s cycle is that it helps him to manage his sexual expectation from the woman at that period.

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