10 Ways To Improve Bonding With Your Children

However, she said parents have to be deliberate about having a conversation with them if that is the purpose, given the distractions at such fun places. “If you go to a picnic and the children are jumping around, you still won’t have that time to talk.Take time to play with them: No doubt, happiness stimulates the secretion of endorphins and oxytocin hormones, thus, parents who have pleasurable moments with their children tend to stay connected.Make the little time with them count: Given that many parents do not have the pleasure of spending much time with their children, due to work demands, experts say the ‘little’ time with them should be maximised.But with the promotion, more was expected of her, in terms of added functions, which she told few of her colleagues would further reduce the little time she had for her family, especially her young children, who were usually in care of her home help. “Some of our colleagues felt her decision was irrational, because the husband earned less than her, from what we hear, but she felt it was best for her children,” a colleague privy to the episode said.On the average, children have just about 900 weeks (more or less) to spend with their parents before they gain some independence, thus, it is important for parents to make good use of the time together.Those companionable, safe moments of connection invite whatever your child is currently grappling with to the surface, whether it’s something that happened at school, the way you snapped at her this morning, or her worries about tomorrow’s field trip. ” She said all the parent needed to do at that time was to listen and assure them that their concern would be addressed the following day. “The next day, be sure to follow up.Olufunlayo Bammeke, said parents need to be deliberate about spending time with their children.Bammeke said, “When a child comes back from school, it’s very important for the parent or a significant other to spend time looking through what the child did in school.Create time for them every day: The nature of some parents’ job makes it almost impossible to spend time with their children each day, except weekends, given that some leave  home early in the morning and come back late in the night.So, let them see you as their friends. Picnic is good, but.. : Another good way to bond is for parents and their children to go on a picnic. “It’s an opportunity to be together; find out about their lives, find out about the things they have done and share certain things with them, she added.Interestingly, the basis of Janet’s resignation – need to create time for family – is central to the experience of many parents, especially mothers, for obvious reasons.Laura Markham, advised that parents should do whatever they could to schedule 15 minutes with each of their children every day. “Just pour your love on them and try any physical activity or game that gets them laughing,” she added.Given the huge roles parental guidance and bonding play in shaping the character, experiences and sometimes future of children, it has therefore become necessary to point out how parents can improve on the bonding between them and their children.Markham noted that children tend to open up late at night than any other time of the day.

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What Would You Do If Your Wealthy Parent Wills All Their Wealth To Charity?

It will challenge me to make my own wealth with my own hands and I’m so certain that I’ll make it because there’s an old adage that says, “There is nothing that befalls a man that  he wasn’t formed by nature to bear”. Let charity have it.Anyway, he might want to do that to make his children work hard for themselves but for me, if he tries it, I’ll come up with some phony tale and get good money from him before he even goes through with it.If I had a cordial relationship with my father and all of a sudden I learnt he had given all his wealth to charity, I’ll ask him why he took such a decision. He may have his reasons.If he had spent enough money to help me develop and be independent to the point that I don’t really need his money, then I’ll understand.But whatever the case is, Saturday PUNCH asked Nigerians what they will do if they discovered that their wealthy parents have willed all their wealth to charity and left none for them. He’ll pay for it.Even without his own money coming to me when he passes on, I would be sure of meeting people, having contacts that can go a long way to help me achieve greatness.The natural reaction would be to feel disappointed, not because I wouldn’t want to work to earn my own money or have a source of livelihood but because everyone enjoys a leverage.

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Do You Know The Life Sequence That Makes All The Difference?

Brookings scholars Ron Haskins and Isabel Sawhill have identified the “success sequence,” through which young adults who follow three steps—getting at least a high school degree, then working full-time, and then marrying before having any children, in that order—are very unlikely to become poor.Kay Hymowitz, author of The Marriage Gap, has found that while divorce rates may be high today, they tend to be high for a certain subset of the population: those who didn’t follow The Plan.Those who follow it are far more likely to escape poverty, be personally happy, and raise kids who are well-adjusted.People who don’t believe in it will raise kids who likely won’t follow it.

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Why We Need Weddings: Some Deep Thoughts About Marriage & Community

I know not every new couple has this kind of community support, and I know that we’re really blessed. (And that’s one reason why I really do try to be generous when young people around me get married! ).Over the years as marriage has become less important culturally, and as more people live together before marriage, we’ve lost some of this opportunity of community support for a couple.Over the years as marriage has become less important culturally, and as more people live together before marriage, we’ve lost some of the opportunity of community support for a couple.I don’t know how to fix that, but I hope that in the future I will be more cognizant of the fact that single young people need community support, too.I don’t know what I’m asking for, but it just struck me as sad that if there were a single young person who decided to risk a lot for Jesus that there isn’t a similar life event where people would come alongside and give gifts and advice and support.There are those like my family (and maybe yours) where weddings are natural and people know what to do and the whole community supports it.

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I’ve Had 80 Affairs With Married Men, Woman Boasts

Mrs Van Der Velde, from Harrogate, North Yorkshire, said she first started cheating in the last years of her marriage to her late husband who died suddenly aged 34 in March 2004. “We decided to embark on an open relationship in the last few years before he died.She said: “Traditional marriage counselling often fails because it is based on a model which has not been reformed for 150 years. “All this ’till death do us part’ nonsense assumes monogamy works for everyone.

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Wifey Wednesday: When Your Marriage Is In Trouble, Do Something!

As daunting as this might seem, here’s the hope behind it: the current challenges in your marriage may well be God’s vehicle for you to become the strong woman he created you to be.If you’re trying to find your primary refuge in your husband, if you’ve centered your hope on him, if your security depends on his approval, and if you will do almost anything to gain his acceptance, then you’ve just given to a man what rightfully belongs to God alone.The current challenges in your marriage may well be God’s vehicle for you to become the strong woman he created you to be.You married a fallen man and that means the time will come when you need to become an active woman to confront the weaknesses you see in yourself and your husband.

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Top 10 Ways To Update Your Bedroom

First and foremost, you can spend thousands of dollars renovating and redecorating your bedroom but the main thing that will help you update the feel and atmosphere of your room is truly separating it out as a place of rest.But it works the other way, too–if you get in a habit of using the bedroom only for things that make you feel relaxed, you’ll start to find that even just sitting in your bedroom starts to make you feel more relaxed.Here’s a little bit of truth many of us don’t want to accept: a clean bedroom will always look better than a dirty, messy one, even if the messy one cost thousands of dollars.

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Want To See Some Wedding Pics? Plus I Haven’t Slept In 4 Days

Some of the stress wasn’t really anything a coordinator could deal with–family members who are causing tension; one table of 8 where 5 people just decide not to show up at the wedding, so there are 3 people sitting there awkwardly (the same thing happened at Becca’s wedding.That’s new to me, and I don’t know how to describe it except that as soon as my mind does that “dream” thing where logic stops, it honestly does feel like I’m falling and I’m awake instantly.Anyway, I did have a wonderful day, but I think maybe as the parent of the child getting married it’s better in retrospect than it is at the time, because there is so much chaos and stress, even if you plan on having down times during the day (and we did) and even if you try to minimize it.I’m trying so hard to live in the moment these days, but it’s hard to appreciate the moments if afterwards you’re always second guessing yourself.

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An Emotionally Mature Husband Is A Blessing

A winning father today is one who has emotional maturity and not afraid of his own feelings but also able to train his children to value their own emotions too.    He is a logical father who is totally committed to understanding his children’s individual capabilities, challenges and how to meet their holistic needs.A man who has emotional maturity is able to take responsibility for his                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       actions and also try his utmost best to avoid making bad decisions too.                                                                                                                                One who lacks emotional maturity will find it difficult to learn, grow as well as take responsibility of his failures too.

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59 Ways Never To Miss Erection Again (1)

Sixteen, with acquired premature ejaculation, the husband in question previously had successful sexual intercourse and only now has developed premature ejaculation.Premature ejaculation refers to the inability of a man to delay ejaculation during a sexual act until their spouse has reached orgasm and are duly satisfied.Fifteen, in a case of lifelong premature ejaculation, the husband has been experiencing premature ejaculation since he started having intercourse.Twenty-three, premature ejaculation is believed to be a psychological problem and does not represent any known organic disease involving the male reproductive tract or any known lesions in the brain or nervous system.Many husbands neither ask for it nor apply it properly.   First and foremost, you as the husband must remove any of the psychological causes that are present or help your wife to remove such.Thirty, when a husband does not know that his first purpose in the sexual act is to satisfy his wife, he will only mind satisfying himself.Twenty-four, premature ejaculation is the most common sexual disorder in men younger than 40 years.Characteristics of husbands with lifelong premature ejaculation could include the following; psychological difficulties, deep anxiety about sex that relates to one or more traumatic experiences encountered during development.Twenty-nine, the problem of a percentage of people who suffer premature ejaculation is psychological.Eighteen, cases of acquired premature ejaculation can include the following: erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, psychotropic drug use, etc.

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