Things To Note When It Comes To Marital Sex (2)

I was in a summit last week where some friends were arguing that early morning erection is not important to good sexual life, and that as you age, you should not look forward to experiencing morning erection anymore; please is this true?  Early morning erection is an indication that all is well; although men have several night times’ erections.You can’t feel the testicle in the scrotum on the side where it hasn’t descended.   I think the mistake of the guy in question is that he should have told you about his medical condition much more earlier than when you guys have made public your intention to get married to the extent of making the wedding day known.Moreover, if you really can’t think about sex, you can wisely present it to the partner that is burning with desire in such a way that it will not subject your marriage to relationship turbulence. ‘I can’t miss my favourite soap opera. ’ There is too much to see on the TV; no matter how lame this may seem, entertainment does have more significance than real life, sometimes.But if he refuses,  it’s important to keep his penis clean, wash the outer side with soap and water, push the foreskin back gently; it will retract easily and when the foreskin retracts, clean it carefully, wash the entire area with soap and water.

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Your Sex Life When You Are Trying To Conceive

Ten years after infertility, couples rated their level of marital and sexual satisfaction as being “adequate” or “more than adequate. ” This was true regardless of whether they succeeded in getting pregnant, went on to adoption, or remained childless.He may worry that his partner will leave him for a “real man. ” When you don’t feel worthy of love, or don’t feel sexy or attractive, your sexual relationship is going to suffer.  Anxiety can also lead to sexual tension.The stress of trying to conceive, plus the diagnosis, testing, and treatment of infertility, causes tension in the sexual relationship for many couples.

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Should Churches Tell Men To Cut Their Beards Before Joining Them In Marriage?

So if my husband-to-be has been grooming his beard for five, six years, he will have to cut it just because he wants to get married in a church?   I think it is actually insane that we have given the church the role of our parents so much that children in few years might question the authority of the parent.However, if the church should insist that he has to shave his beard for our wedding to hold, then I will simply tell him to shave it off just for the sake of our wedding and after the wedding, he can always grow his beard back.Personally, I feel it gives room for speculations of likely occultic tendencies.   I think the church is suggesting that keeping a beard is a form of representing talibans.If I find myself in that situation I’ll need the church to give me detailed reasons why my husband to be has to cut his beard before our wedding.But I won’t call off my wedding in the church just because of beard.Before I got married, my husband had very full beard and the church did not ask him to shave off his beard for any reason.Why should church attach importance to such frivolous thing as beard?

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Things To Note When It Comes To Marital Sex

Married women who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other activities or abstinence and frequent sexual intercourse has been associated with lower diastolic blood pressure.Having sex and orgasm increases levels of the hormone, oxytocin, in the body and this helps couples bond and build trust.When some older couples worry about the effect of the energy expended during sex could cause stroke, I tell them ‘that is not so’, because scientists found out that frequency of sex was not associated with, stroke, also having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half in men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.While it’s true that you can get pregnant from all kinds of sexual positions, there is one that health experts frequently recommend as the way to increase your chances of becoming pregnant and that’s the “missionary” position (male on top) with a “pelvic tilt,”.Study has discovered that married couples who embrace sex with a positive attitude and place sex in its rightful position in the union have the best, most satisfying life together.Sex reduces pain as the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increases; arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, due to higher oxytocin levels they gain after sexual exercise.However, not until the married couples embrace the fact that in their union, there is no substitute for sex, their marriage will still be gravely affected in a negative way.Before penetrating her vagina, I have on each occasion, done all the sensitive touches, foreplay, romantic caressing, kissing, breasts sucking, vagina fingering, and clitoral robbing, to the best of my knowledge and ability, but she still complains of not enjoying sexual arousal.A recent evaluation of 59 pre-menopausal women before and after passionate sex with their husbands found that the more sexual intercourse, the higher the oxytocin levels.

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Beware! Breast And Butt Enlargement Bad For Your Health

Others include skin rashes around the breast, shifting of the silicone, usually caused by gravity or trauma, risk of infections that accompany surgery and in this case could lead to the removal of the implant, the incision site might not heal on time, deflation, due to the leakage of the saltwater in the saline solution, chest wall or underlying rib cage could appear deformed, the skin around the breast could shrink, the breasts could appear uneven in appearance in terms of size, shape or breast level, which could prompt desperate moves to package them or consider another surgery to avoid embarrassment. “Many of the changes to your breast following implantation may be cosmetically undesirable and irreversible and the longer you have breast implants, the more likely you are to experience local complications and adverse outcomes,” the FDA warns.

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Does Romance Have To Be Spontaneous To Be Real?

When you put something in your calendar, you’re saying, “this is important to me. ” When you make a list of the things that you’re supposed to do, it’s because they’re so important that you don’t want to forget them.But this approach isn’t always embraced by women. “I don’t want to have to tell him to get the right gift,” they’ll explain. “I want him to study me and love me enough that he would think of getting the right gift.This week I’ve been talking about how to love your husband and how to treat him well, and I want to address this issue of expectations of romance in marriage, too, with this post that I wrote a while ago but which most of you haven’t read.So many women are disappointed by men on holidays, and it seems to me that we should just make our expectations clear. (I keep a Pinterest board with things I’d like as gifts, and put things on my Amazon wish list. It works much better! ).

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Wifey Wednesday: How To Ask Your Husband For Help

In Christian circles we’re too interested in being nice and showing love and grace (though we often use that as a cop out to actually confront people)–and in so doing we often sacrifice honesty and forthrightness.What I have seen lately is that the vast majority of interpersonal problems, whether they’re in marriage, in the family, or at work, really need an open, honest, and hard conversation.This week we’re talking about how to show love to your husband, and one of the big ways we can do that is by being upfront, rather than manipulative.If you are being nice simply because you want them to be nice back, then you’re being manipulative and you’re likely going to be very disappointed.If this is an issue that you need help with in your marriage, check out my book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage.That idea of having to ask for help, though, grated on my reader Lindsey. “I shouldn’t have to ask! ” she told herself. “He can see the mess! ” Then one day during an argument, her husband grew quiet and said, “Baby, I just don’t see the mess the way you do.This topic is covered in thought number 4, but the book tackles it in more detail with some great action steps to help you change the dynamic in your marriage.A while back I wrote this article on how to ask your husband for help, and I’m going to rerun it today because I think it’s important.

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Top 10 Ways New Moms Can Still Feel Like Wives Again

Bedtimes are important because when the baby goes to bed at a certain time, you and your husband are free to have a few moments to exchange some words that don’t involve, “she’s hungry, or did you remember wipes and the butt cream. ” Those words aren’t sexy.We’re talking about loving your hubby this week at To Love, Honor and Vacuum, and one of the best ways to do that is not to add ONE MORE THING to your to do list, but instead to do a mind shift where, even when you’re a mom, you still feel like a wife first.But keep an open mind, some of the things you thought you were going to do may change dramatically once the baby is here.

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Reader Question: How Do I Get The Desire To Please My Husband Sexually?

Women need to concentrate in order to make sex pleasurable, so we often have a hard time focusing on making him feel good during sex.Every Monday I like to post a reader question and take a stab at answering it, and this week we’re going to be talking about how to love your husband and make him feel awesome. Hi Sheila!Once you start making love, it may be necessary for a woman to be able to concentrate–or at least to be carried away by feelings rather than thinking about making him feel good.But the way that God made sex, for sex to work well as a couple, she needs to let go of control and not worry about anything else (which, as women, we’re always worried about someone else and something else; it’s God telling us, ‘it’s okay for this to be about just feeling something, not doing something! ”).To feel good, women must silence all those voices in their heads and the endless to-do lists and just FEEL and experience, and men must focus on someone other than themselves.Finally, she says that she doesn’t have the raw desire to make him feel good the way that he does for her.Has Making Love Become Only About Making Her Feel Good?Has Making Love Become Only About Making Her Feel Good?When making love, if a husband concentrates on his wife, sex lasts longer & both have fun; if a wife concentrates on him, sex is shorter and often only he receives pleasure.That way you can each feel that you get to do what you want occasionally, without your spouse feeling pressured to do that all the time. (Note: I am not talking about participating in sinful things or things that you are very uncomfortable with.

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Coping With Long-distance Marriage

If the long-distance marriage is work-related, try your best to establish an end date to it – for example, the number of years your partner needs to stay away because knowing the end date helps you deal with issues together.When you are in a long-distance marriage, it is advisable to use technology to your advantage and schedule time for video calls or Skype with your spouse.The idea is that ‘out of sight, out of mind’ may have some validity; so, keeping a photo of your partner in view helps keep them alive and well in your psyche.

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